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The Weekend Paradox: When Monday-itis Turns into Sunday-itis

Kelly Walker • September 23, 2024

Do you remember the feeling of Friday rolling around? That rush of excitement knowing the weekend was just around the corner—a time to relax, unwind and escape the pressures of the work week. But then Sunday would arrive, and instead of enjoying your time off, a sense of dread would settle in. Why did Friday bring so much happiness, yet Sunday felt heavy with the anticipation of the week ahead?


This shift from Monday-itis to Sunday-itis is more common than we might think, and it reveals something important about how we live and work.


The Weekend Paradox: Why Sunday-itis Happens


Friday represents the promise of freedom. It's the gateway to two days where our time is our own, and we can (theoretically) disconnect from work. The mere anticipation of this break brings joy. But when Sunday arrives, that joy can quickly turn into anxiety. Instead of living in the moment, we start worrying about Monday—about the to-do lists, deadlines and challenges that await us.


This phenomenon is a sign that something deeper is at play. It's not just about disliking Mondays; it's about feeling overwhelmed, stretched too thin and perhaps not truly recharging during the weekend.


What Sunday-itis is Telling Us


Sunday-itis is a red flag. It's a signal that our work-life balance might be out of alignment. It can also be a sign that our workplace culture is not aligned with our personal values and this might require some careful thought and consideration.


If we spend our weekends dreading the return to work, it suggests that we’re not using this time effectively to rest and recharge. Instead, we’re carrying the burdens of the week with us, leaving little room for genuine relaxation.


This can happen for several reasons:


Unfinished Business: When we leave work on Friday with tasks hanging over our heads, it’s hard to fully switch off. The subconscious mind continues to process these unfinished tasks, leading to stress and anxiety on Sunday.


Inadequate Recharge: If our weekends are packed with activities, obligations, or simply more work, we miss out on the crucial downtime needed to replenish our energy.


Underlying Thoughts and Behaviour Patterns: Often, it’s not just the workload but our internal dialogue and habits that contribute to Sunday-itis. Reflecting on how we approach our work, how we set expectations for ourselves and how we manage stress can reveal patterns that need addressing to bring about real change.


Unresolved Burnout: If you’re experiencing Sunday-itis regularly, it could be a sign of underlying burnout. When burnout is unaddressed, it infiltrates every part of our lives, making it difficult to enjoy even the things we used to love.


Life is Too Short for Weekends We Don’t Enjoy


Weekends should be a time to recharge, reconnect, and rediscover joy. If we’re not enjoying our weekends, we’re missing out on a crucial opportunity to reset our minds and bodies. Life is too short to spend precious days off in a state of stress or anxiety.


So, what can we do?


Set Boundaries: Create clear boundaries between work and personal time. Leave work at work, both physically and mentally.


Plan for Rest: Schedule downtime as you would any other important activity. Whether it’s reading a book, going for a walk, or simply doing nothing, make rest a priority.


Reflect on Your Thoughts and Behaviours: If you’re consistently dreading the return to work, take time to explore your underlying thoughts and behaviour patterns. Understanding and addressing these internal factors can lead to more sustainable changes in how you experience both work and leisure.


Seek Support: If you’re struggling to manage work-related stress, consider speaking with a coach, mentor, or counsellor. Sometimes, an outside perspective can help you find new strategies for coping and thriving.


Reflection: Embracing the Weekend as a Time for Renewal


Take a moment to consider your own weekends. Are they truly restorative, or do they often feel like a rushed attempt to squeeze in relaxation between obligations? Do you find yourself losing precious Sunday hours to worrying about the week ahead?


Recognising Sunday-itis is the first step towards making meaningful changes. It’s a signal that your mind and body may need more time to decompress and reset than you’ve been allowing. Perhaps it's a sign that it's time for a career reflection. Reflect on what a fulfilling weekend looks like for you. Is it time spent with loved ones? Time in nature? Or perhaps indulging in activities that nurture your creativity and inner peace?


Whatever it is, prioritise these moments, and allow yourself the space to fully recharge. When you reclaim your weekends, you set the foundation for a more balanced, productive and joyful week ahead.


If you find yourself constantly battling Sunday-itis or feeling overwhelmed by work-related stress, it might be time to take a deeper look at your work-life balance and wellbeing. At Prospera Consulting, we specialise in helping professionals like you prevent burnout, set healthy boundaries and develop sustainable leadership strategies. Whether through executive coaching, burnout prevention programs, or tailored workshops, we’re here to support your journey towards long-term wellbeing and professional success.


Reconnect with yourself, recharge, and start thriving in both your personal and professional life with Prospera Consulting.

By Kelly Walker December 9, 2024
Over the next 12 months, I’m embarking on an exciting journey to become an ECD Certified Practitioner with Riders & Elephants . This certification is not just about adding another qualification to my portfolio - it’s about deepening my ability to help leaders, teams and organisations thrive by intentionally shaping emotional culture. At Prospera Consulting, I’ve always championed heart-centered leadership, wellbeing and sustainable success. This certification aligns perfectly with that vision, equipping me with innovative tools and insights to support clients in fostering emotionally intelligent workplaces. Why Emotional Culture Matters Every organisation has an emotional culture - whether intentionally shaped or unconsciously developed. Emotional culture is about the feelings that drive our behaviours at work, impacting how we collaborate, innovate and perform. It influences: Employee engagement and retention. How teams navigate challenges and embrace change. The overall wellbeing and satisfaction of individuals. When leaders prioritise emotional culture, they create environments where people feel valued, connected and motivated. This isn’t just a soft skill; it’s a strategic advantage that directly impacts organisational success. What is the Emotional Culture Deck? A key component of this certification is the Emotional Culture Deck by Riders & Elephants. This powerful tool is designed to make it easier for leaders and teams to have meaningful conversations about the emotions driving their work. Through interactive exercises, the Emotional Culture Deck helps individuals and groups: Identify the emotions they want to feel (and avoid) at work. Explore how these emotions shape behaviours and outcomes. Build shared understanding and connection around what matters most. This innovative approach transforms abstract concepts into actionable insights, giving leaders the confidence to lead with authenticity and emotional intelligence. Exploring Emotional Culture in Leadership and Beyond The Emotional Culture Practitioner certification isn’t limited to workplace wellbeing; it spans several critical dimensions, including: Emotional Culture : Providing tools to uncover, define and shape the emotional landscapes that underpin organisational success. Leadership : Understanding how emotions influence decision-making, team dynamics, and authentic leadership. Change : Supporting organisations through transitions by addressing the emotional impact of uncertainty and transformation. Stakeholders : Enhancing connection and communication by recognising and shaping the emotions driving relationships. This holistic approach will allow me to deliver even more tailored, impactful solutions to my clients, whether they’re looking to navigate complex challenges, foster stronger connections, or build a more sustainable path forward. What This Means for Prospera Consulting’s Clients At Prospera Consulting, our focus has always been on heart-centered leadership, sustainable strategy, and wellbeing. This certification aligns perfectly with our mission to help leaders lead with authenticity and purpose. For my clients, this journey means: Enhanced Tools for Leadership Development : I’ll bring evidence-based methods to help leaders understand and influence emotional culture in their organisations. Deeper Conversations About Wellbeing : We’ll explore how emotional culture intersects with burnout prevention and sustainable leadership. Practical, Tangible Outcomes : Whether it’s through workshops or coaching sessions, emotional culture tools will be seamlessly integrated into the way we work together. Looking Ahead with Excitement This certification isn’t just about acquiring new skills, it’s about amplifying the impact of the work I already do. I’m excited to explore how these learnings will influence the services Prospera Consulting offers and the outcomes we achieve together. The year ahead will be one of growth, discovery, and transformation - not just for me, but for every leader and organisation I have the privilege of working with. If you’re curious about emotional culture and how it can reshape leadership, culture or wellbeing in your organisation, let’s connect. Together, we can explore how to create workplaces where emotions drive connection, innovation and success.
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