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By Kelly Walker December 9, 2024
Over the next 12 months, I’m embarking on an exciting journey to become an ECD Certified Practitioner with Riders & Elephants . This certification is not just about adding another qualification to my portfolio - it’s about deepening my ability to help leaders, teams and organisations thrive by intentionally shaping emotional culture. At Prospera Consulting, I’ve always championed heart-centered leadership, wellbeing and sustainable success. This certification aligns perfectly with that vision, equipping me with innovative tools and insights to support clients in fostering emotionally intelligent workplaces. Why Emotional Culture Matters Every organisation has an emotional culture - whether intentionally shaped or unconsciously developed. Emotional culture is about the feelings that drive our behaviours at work, impacting how we collaborate, innovate and perform. It influences: Employee engagement and retention. How teams navigate challenges and embrace change. The overall wellbeing and satisfaction of individuals. When leaders prioritise emotional culture, they create environments where people feel valued, connected and motivated. This isn’t just a soft skill; it’s a strategic advantage that directly impacts organisational success. What is the Emotional Culture Deck? A key component of this certification is the Emotional Culture Deck by Riders & Elephants. This powerful tool is designed to make it easier for leaders and teams to have meaningful conversations about the emotions driving their work. Through interactive exercises, the Emotional Culture Deck helps individuals and groups: Identify the emotions they want to feel (and avoid) at work. Explore how these emotions shape behaviours and outcomes. Build shared understanding and connection around what matters most. This innovative approach transforms abstract concepts into actionable insights, giving leaders the confidence to lead with authenticity and emotional intelligence. Exploring Emotional Culture in Leadership and Beyond The Emotional Culture Practitioner certification isn’t limited to workplace wellbeing; it spans several critical dimensions, including: Emotional Culture : Providing tools to uncover, define and shape the emotional landscapes that underpin organisational success. Leadership : Understanding how emotions influence decision-making, team dynamics, and authentic leadership. Change : Supporting organisations through transitions by addressing the emotional impact of uncertainty and transformation. Stakeholders : Enhancing connection and communication by recognising and shaping the emotions driving relationships. This holistic approach will allow me to deliver even more tailored, impactful solutions to my clients, whether they’re looking to navigate complex challenges, foster stronger connections, or build a more sustainable path forward. What This Means for Prospera Consulting’s Clients At Prospera Consulting, our focus has always been on heart-centered leadership, sustainable strategy, and wellbeing. This certification aligns perfectly with our mission to help leaders lead with authenticity and purpose. For my clients, this journey means: Enhanced Tools for Leadership Development : I’ll bring evidence-based methods to help leaders understand and influence emotional culture in their organisations. Deeper Conversations About Wellbeing : We’ll explore how emotional culture intersects with burnout prevention and sustainable leadership. Practical, Tangible Outcomes : Whether it’s through workshops or coaching sessions, emotional culture tools will be seamlessly integrated into the way we work together. Looking Ahead with Excitement This certification isn’t just about acquiring new skills, it’s about amplifying the impact of the work I already do. I’m excited to explore how these learnings will influence the services Prospera Consulting offers and the outcomes we achieve together. The year ahead will be one of growth, discovery, and transformation - not just for me, but for every leader and organisation I have the privilege of working with. If you’re curious about emotional culture and how it can reshape leadership, culture or wellbeing in your organisation, let’s connect. Together, we can explore how to create workplaces where emotions drive connection, innovation and success.
By Kelly Walker November 4, 2024
Burnout is a serious issue across workplaces, impacting both productivity and personal well-being. When supporting a burnt-out team member, leaders have a critical opportunity to make a difference — but many make a common, well-intentioned mistake: assuming they know what the employee needs rather than directly asking them. Assumptions about how to support an employee can lead to unintended setbacks. For example, reducing responsibilities might seem helpful but could remove tasks that the employee finds meaningful or energising. Without asking, leaders risk taking actions that may ultimately frustrate or disengage the employee further. Why Assumptions Miss the Mark in Burnout Support Burnout is a deeply personal experience, and no single approach will work for everyone. Leaders who try to “fix” burnout by acting on assumptions may inadvertently worsen the situation, sending messages that feel dismissive, undermining and demotivating. Here are some common examples of how assumptions can backfire: Assuming a lighter workload will help : Automatically reducing tasks may unintentionally communicate that the leader doesn’t have confidence in the employee or sees them as a burden. Assuming they need “easier” tasks : Reassigning an employee to low-stakes work may feel like a demotion if those tasks lack purpose or meaning for them. A well-meaning leader can unintentionally add to the stress or isolation felt by the employee. To truly support, it’s essential to ask rather than assume. The Power of Asking: How to Create a Supportive Dialogue The best way to avoid assumptions is to engage in an open, respectful conversation. Rather than “fixing” burnout through assumptions, start by asking the employee what they need. This not only validates their experience but gives them control over their own path to recovery. Here are some questions that can foster a supportive dialogue: “What tasks or aspects of your role feel energising for you right now?” “Are there specific challenges or stressors that feel overwhelming?” “How can we adjust your responsibilities to better support you?” These questions demonstrate a willingness to listen and help the employee feel heard, ultimately leading to more effective support. Identifying Energising vs Exhausting Tasks Another risk of assumptions is removing tasks that are actually fulfilling for the employee. Burnout doesn’t mean every part of their job is overwhelming — often, some aspects remain rewarding. Understanding which tasks energise versus drain them can guide balanced recovery support. This approach also empowers the employee to retain some control over their work experience. For instance, if mentoring others brings purpose, keeping this in their role could aid recovery. Conversely, discussing ways to manage or reduce certain administrative tasks might ease their burden. Establish a Safe Space for Ongoing Conversations Supporting an employee through burnout requires ongoing dialogue, not a single conversation. Regular check-ins provide the opportunity to adjust support based on what’s working and what’s not. This consistent communication shows that the team values wellbeing and creates a culture where speaking up about challenges is welcomed and respected. By maintaining an open, adaptive approach, leaders reinforce their commitment to the employee’s wellbeing, creating a supportive environment for both the individual and the broader team. Avoiding Assumptions & Supporting Recovery The biggest mistake leaders make when supporting burnt-out employees is assuming they know what’s best without asking. By opening a conversation and inviting the employee to share what they need, leaders can avoid unintended setbacks and offer meaningful support. Burnout recovery is a journey, and compassionate, individualised support can make all the difference. Through open communication and a commitment to understanding each employee’s needs, leaders can foster a healthier, more supportive environment for everyone on the team. At Prospera Consulting, we understand the toll that burnout can take, and we’re here to support you on your journey to recovery. Remember, you don’t have to navigate this alone. Reach out, take that first step, and give yourself the care and compassion you deserve. Your wellbeing is worth it.
By Kelly Walker October 23, 2024
Burnout is a state of physical, emotional and mental exhaustion that can leave you feeling completely depleted and unable to cope with even the simplest tasks. It can creep up on you slowly or hit you like a tonne of bricks, but either way, when you’re burnt out, it can feel like there’s no way out. If you’re at that point where everything feels overwhelming, and you’re on the verge of sending out an SOS, it’s time for a personal intervention. Here’s how you can start to reclaim your energy, reframe your thinking, and give yourself the grace and compassion you deserve. Reframe Your Thinking: From Maximum to Minimum When you’re burnt out, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking you need to do everything, be everything, and keep pushing through. But this “maximum” mindset is what got you into this state in the first place. To start your recovery, it’s crucial to reframe your thinking and shift from maximum to minimum. Ask yourself: What is the minimum that I need to do today? This question can be incredibly powerful in helping you reset your priorities. On days when you’re feeling completely drained, focus only on what absolutely needs to be done. Maybe that’s just getting out of bed, eating something nourishing, or taking care of one essential work task. Let go of the pressure to do more than that. By focusing on the minimum, you give yourself permission to rest and recover without feeling guilty or overwhelmed. Give Yourself Grace and Self-Compassion Burnout often comes with a heavy dose of self-criticism. You might feel like you’re not doing enough, not being productive, or that you’re somehow failing. But these thoughts only serve to deepen your exhaustion and sense of inadequacy. Now, more than ever, it’s important to give yourself grace. Recognise that burnout is not a sign of weakness, but a signal that you’ve been pushing too hard for too long. Be kind to yourself. Practice self-compassion by speaking to yourself the way you would to a dear friend in the same situation. Acknowledge that you’re doing your best, and that it’s okay to take a step back to focus on your well-being. Self-compassion also means allowing yourself to feel what you’re feeling without judgment. If you need to cry, let the tears flow. If you need to rest, give yourself permission to do so. Your emotions are valid, and taking the time to process them is an essential part of healing from burnout. Ask for Help: Who Is Your Support Network? One of the most challenging aspects of burnout is the feeling of isolation that can come with it. You might feel like you have to bear the burden alone, but the truth is, you don’t. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength and self-awareness. Think about who is in your support network. Who can you turn to for a listening ear, practical assistance, or just a comforting presence? Whether it’s a partner, a friend, a family member, or a professional, reach out and let them know what you’re going through. You don’t have to go into detail if you’re not ready; simply sharing that you’re struggling can be enough to start the conversation. If you’re hesitant to ask for help because you don’t want to burden others, remember this: the people who care about you would much rather know that you need support than see you suffer in silence. Lean on your network, and let them help you navigate this difficult time. Take a Break If You Can Sometimes, the best way to start recovering from burnout is to step away from the source of your stress. If you can, take a break—whether it’s a day off, a weekend away, or a longer holiday. Use this time to disconnect from work and other obligations, and focus solely on your wellbeing. Taking a break doesn’t have to mean doing nothing (unless that’s what you need!). It could be spending time in nature, indulging in a hobby, or simply catching up on rest. The key is to give yourself permission to rest without feeling guilty or pressured to be productive. Remember, taking care of yourself is not a luxury—it’s a necessity. If taking a break isn’t possible right now, try to find small pockets of time throughout your day where you can rest and recharge. Even five minutes of deep breathing, stretching, or stepping outside for some fresh air can make a difference. A Path to Recovery Burnout can feel overwhelming, but it’s important to remember that you have the power to make a personal intervention and start your recovery. By reframing your thinking from maximum to minimum, giving yourself grace and self-compassion, asking for help and taking a break if you can, you can begin to replenish your energy and find your way back to balance. At Prospera Consulting, we understand the toll that burnout can take, and we’re here to support you on your journey to recovery. Remember, you don’t have to navigate this alone. Reach out, take that first step, and give yourself the care and compassion you deserve. Your wellbeing is worth it.
By Kelly Walker October 23, 2024
Why the Nervous System Chooses Familiar Chaos Over Unfamiliar Peace As humans, we are wired for survival, and our nervous system plays a key role in keeping us safe. But sometimes, this natural defense mechanism can trap us in patterns of behaviour that feel familiar, even when they’re not what we truly desire. You’ve likely heard the saying, “better the devil you know than the devil you don’t.” This phrase captures the essence of why we often stick to the known, even if it’s causing us stress or unhappiness. Our nervous system, operating below our conscious awareness, has a tendency to choose familiar chaos over unfamiliar peace. But why is this? The Comfort of Familiarity At its core, the nervous system seeks safety and predictability. Anything new or unfamiliar can be perceived as a potential threat. Even when we are consciously aware that a new environment, relationship, or job might be better for us, our nervous system is programmed to default to what it knows. Familiarity, even if it’s uncomfortable or painful, offers a sense of certainty that the unknown doesn’t. In a work setting, for example, you might know that your job is burning you out. Your workload is overwhelming, your stress levels are through the roof, and you feel disconnected from your sense of purpose. Yet, making a change - whether it’s reducing your hours, switching roles, setting boundaries or even leaving the organisation - feels too risky. So, you stay put. You choose the stress and exhaustion you know because, in the back of your mind, the idea of stepping into the unknown triggers a deeper fear. The Power of Conditioning Our nervous system is shaped by past experiences, conditioning us to respond in ways that helped us survive previously. This conditioning runs deep, often starting in childhood. If we learned early on that it’s safer to avoid conflict, to stay small, or to put others’ needs before our own, our nervous system will continue to default to those patterns. For example, if you grew up in an environment where you had to walk on eggshells to keep the peace, your nervous system might associate speaking up for yourself with danger. Even if you’re now in a workplace or relationship where expressing your needs is perfectly acceptable, your nervous system may still trigger a fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response, convincing you that it’s safer to remain silent. In these moments, we are not consciously choosing discomfort; our nervous system is. It’s conditioned to choose the familiar response, even if it’s no longer serving us. The Fear of Uncertainty Uncertainty can feel incredibly unsettling, especially when we’ve been conditioned to associate predictability with safety. The nervous system thrives on what it knows, so stepping into “unfamiliar peace” - a new, potentially better situation - requires us to face uncertainty head-on. And uncertainty is often interpreted by the nervous system as a threat, setting off a cascade of stress responses designed to keep us safe. The challenge, then, is that what is actually safer and more aligned with our wellbeing is often perceived by the nervous system as dangerous simply because it’s unfamiliar. Whether it’s leaving a toxic work environment, stepping away from unhealthy relationships, or choosing a new path in life, the unknown can feel more dangerous than it truly is, leading us to choose the familiar - even when that familiarity is detrimental to our mental, emotional and physical health. Breaking the Cycle So, how do we break free from this cycle of choosing the familiar chaos over the unfamiliar peace? The answer lies in nervous system regulation and a gradual rewiring of our internal responses. Awareness : The first step is awareness. Recognising that your nervous system is playing a role in keeping you stuck can be empowering. This understanding allows you to step back and observe your behaviour without judgment. Nervous System Regulation : Practices like breathwork, meditation and somatic exercises help to regulate the nervous system, creating more capacity to handle the unknown. When your nervous system is calm, you’re better equipped to make conscious choices, rather than reacting out of fear or past conditioning. Taking Small Steps : You don’t have to leap into the unknown all at once. Start by taking small, manageable steps toward change. Each time you push your comfort zone, you expand your nervous system’s capacity to handle uncertainty. Over time, what once felt terrifying may become more tolerable, even exciting. Seek Support : It’s also helpful to seek support, whether from a coach, therapist, or trusted friend. Having someone to help you navigate the unknown can make the process feel less daunting, and they can offer a perspective that your nervous system may not currently see. Embracing the Unfamiliar While our nervous system might prefer the certainty of familiar chaos, it’s important to remember that we have the power to choose differently. It takes time and patience to retrain the nervous system to feel safe in the unknown, but it is possible. The next time you find yourself hesitating to make a change that you know, deep down, will improve your life, take a moment to check in with your nervous system. Acknowledge its desire for safety and predictability, and gently remind yourself that sometimes, the unfamiliar peace is exactly where you need to be - even if that seems scary. By learning to soothe our nervous system and embrace uncertainty, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and a deeper sense of freedom, where thriving becomes the new normal.
By Kelly Walker October 16, 2024
As leaders, we often find ourselves juggling countless tasks, managing every detail and shouldering immense responsibility. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that if we want something done right, we have to do it ourselves. But this mindset, while seemingly efficient in the short term, can be exhausting and unsustainable in the long run. More importantly, it can stifle the growth and development of those around us. The key to overcoming this challenge lies in releasing control and learning to delegate. By letting go of the need to fix everything ourselves and taking the time to teach and empower our team, we not only take pressure off ourselves but also foster a culture of trust, growth and collaboration. Here's how embracing delegation can transform both your leadership and your team. The Illusion of Control Control can be comforting. It gives us a sense of security, knowing that things are being handled exactly as we envision. However, this desire for control can quickly become overwhelming. When we try to manage every detail, we spread ourselves too thin, leading to burnout and decreased effectiveness. Moreover, the illusion of control can hinder the growth of our team members. When we constantly step in to fix things or handle tasks ourselves, we deny others the opportunity to learn, take ownership, and develop their skills. In the long term, this creates a bottleneck where everything depends on you, leaving your team underutilised and disengaged. The Power of Delegation Delegation is more than just offloading tasks; it's about empowering others to take on responsibilities, make decisions, and contribute to the team's success. By delegating effectively, you free up your time and energy to focus on higher-level strategic tasks that require your attention, while also giving your team the chance to grow and thrive. When you delegate, you're not just assigning tasks - you're giving your team the opportunity to learn, innovate and prove their capabilities. This not only enhances their skills but also boosts their confidence and engagement. As they take on more responsibility, they become more invested in the team's success, leading to a stronger, more cohesive unit. Stopping to Fix vs. Stopping to Teach One of the biggest challenges in delegating is resisting the urge to jump in and fix things when they go wrong. It can be tempting to correct mistakes immediately, especially when you're pressed for time or striving for perfection. However, constantly stepping in to fix problems only reinforces your role as the sole problem-solver, preventing your team from learning how to handle challenges on their own. Instead of fixing, take the time to teach. When mistakes happen, use them as learning opportunities. Guide your team through the process of identifying the issue, brainstorming solutions, and implementing changes. This not only helps them develop problem-solving skills but also shows that you trust them to handle difficult situations. Over time, this approach will reduce the number of issues you need to fix personally, as your team becomes more capable and self-reliant. Releasing Control and Building Trust Releasing control is not about abandoning responsibility; it's about trusting your team to step up and perform. Trust is the foundation of any successful team, and by delegating, you demonstrate that you believe in their abilities. This trust is reciprocal - when team members feel trusted, they are more likely to take initiative, be creative and take ownership of their work. Building this trust requires clear communication and setting expectations. Be transparent about the outcomes you’re seeking, but allow your team the freedom to approach tasks in their own way. Provide guidance and support when needed, but resist the urge to micromanage. By doing so, you create an environment where your team feels valued and empowered to contribute their best work. The Long-Term Benefits of Delegation The immediate benefits of delegation are clear: less pressure on yourself, more time to focus on strategic priorities and a more capable team. But the long-term benefits are even more profound. When you delegate effectively, you’re investing in your team’s development. You’re creating future leaders who can take on more responsibility, allowing your organisation to grow and adapt. Moreover, delegation fosters a culture of collaboration and shared responsibility. It encourages open communication, innovation and continuous improvement. As your team becomes more autonomous, you’ll find that the quality of work improves, and the collective performance of the team surpasses what you could achieve alone. Reflection Learning to release control and delegate is a powerful step toward becoming a more effective and sustainable leader. It’s about recognising that you don’t have to do everything yourself and that your team is capable of achieving great things when given the opportunity. By stopping to teach rather than fix, you empower your team to grow, build trust and ultimately, lighten your own load. Delegation is not just a strategy; it’s a mindset shift that leads to long-term success for both you and your team. So, take a step back, trust in your team’s abilities, and watch as they rise to the occasion. In doing so, you’ll not only develop strong, independent team members but also create a work environment where everyone, including yourself, can thrive.
By Kelly Walker September 23, 2024
Do you remember the feeling of Friday rolling around? That rush of excitement knowing the weekend was just around the corner—a time to relax, unwind and escape the pressures of the work week. But then Sunday would arrive, and instead of enjoying your time off, a sense of dread would settle in. Why did Friday bring so much happiness, yet Sunday felt heavy with the anticipation of the week ahead? This shift from Monday-itis to Sunday-itis is more common than we might think, and it reveals something important about how we live and work. The Weekend Paradox: Why Sunday-itis Happens Friday represents the promise of freedom. It's the gateway to two days where our time is our own, and we can (theoretically) disconnect from work. The mere anticipation of this break brings joy. But when Sunday arrives, that joy can quickly turn into anxiety. Instead of living in the moment, we start worrying about Monday—about the to-do lists, deadlines and challenges that await us. This phenomenon is a sign that something deeper is at play. It's not just about disliking Mondays; it's about feeling overwhelmed, stretched too thin and perhaps not truly recharging during the weekend. What Sunday-itis is Telling Us Sunday-itis is a red flag. It's a signal that our work-life balance might be out of alignment. It can also be a sign that our workplace culture is not aligned with our personal values and this might require some careful thought and consideration.  If we spend our weekends dreading the return to work, it suggests that we’re not using this time effectively to rest and recharge. Instead, we’re carrying the burdens of the week with us, leaving little room for genuine relaxation. This can happen for several reasons: Unfinished Business : When we leave work on Friday with tasks hanging over our heads, it’s hard to fully switch off. The subconscious mind continues to process these unfinished tasks, leading to stress and anxiety on Sunday. Inadequate Recharge : If our weekends are packed with activities, obligations, or simply more work, we miss out on the crucial downtime needed to replenish our energy. Underlying Thoughts and Behaviour Patterns : Often, it’s not just the workload but our internal dialogue and habits that contribute to Sunday-itis. Reflecting on how we approach our work, how we set expectations for ourselves and how we manage stress can reveal patterns that need addressing to bring about real change. Unresolved Burnout : If you’re experiencing Sunday-itis regularly, it could be a sign of underlying burnout. When burnout is unaddressed, it infiltrates every part of our lives, making it difficult to enjoy even the things we used to love. Life is Too Short for Weekends We Don’t Enjoy Weekends should be a time to recharge, reconnect, and rediscover joy. If we’re not enjoying our weekends, we’re missing out on a crucial opportunity to reset our minds and bodies. Life is too short to spend precious days off in a state of stress or anxiety. So, what can we do? Set Boundaries : Create clear boundaries between work and personal time. Leave work at work, both physically and mentally. Plan for Rest : Schedule downtime as you would any other important activity. Whether it’s reading a book, going for a walk, or simply doing nothing, make rest a priority. Reflect on Your Thoughts and Behaviours : If you’re consistently dreading the return to work, take time to explore your underlying thoughts and behaviour patterns. Understanding and addressing these internal factors can lead to more sustainable changes in how you experience both work and leisure. Seek Support : If you’re struggling to manage work-related stress, consider speaking with a coach, mentor, or counsellor. Sometimes, an outside perspective can help you find new strategies for coping and thriving. Reflection: Embracing the Weekend as a Time for Renewal Take a moment to consider your own weekends. Are they truly restorative, or do they often feel like a rushed attempt to squeeze in relaxation between obligations? Do you find yourself losing precious Sunday hours to worrying about the week ahead? Recognising Sunday-itis is the first step towards making meaningful changes. It’s a signal that your mind and body may need more time to decompress and reset than you’ve been allowing. Perhaps it's a sign that it's time for a career reflection. Reflect on what a fulfilling weekend looks like for you. Is it time spent with loved ones? Time in nature? Or perhaps indulging in activities that nurture your creativity and inner peace? Whatever it is, prioritise these moments, and allow yourself the space to fully recharge. When you reclaim your weekends, you set the foundation for a more balanced, productive and joyful week ahead. If you find yourself constantly battling Sunday-itis or feeling overwhelmed by work-related stress, it might be time to take a deeper look at your work-life balance and wellbeing. At Prospera Consulting , we specialise in helping professionals like you prevent burnout, set healthy boundaries and develop sustainable leadership strategies. Whether through executive coaching, burnout prevention programs, or tailored workshops, we’re here to support your journey towards long-term wellbeing and professional success. Reconnect with yourself, recharge, and start thriving in both your personal and professional life with Prospera Consulting .
By Kelly Walker September 15, 2024
Burnout isn’t just a buzzword for me—it’s a deeply personal journey that has shaped who I am today. My passion for burnout prevention is rooted in the experiences I’ve endured, the lessons I’ve learnt and the commitment I’ve made to ensure others don’t have to go through what I did. My First Experience of Burnout My first encounter with burnout came in late 2014, during a period when my life seemed to be a perfect storm of stressors. We were living in Adelaide, far from any family support, and my husband at the time was constantly travelling for work. I was also working in a demanding job, whilst juggling the bulk of the responsibilities for our two primary school aged daughters. I began to feel tired, my energy levels plummeted and something as simple as running—which had always been a joy—became an exhausting task. Then, one December evening, my heart started racing uncontrollably, and I found myself in the emergency department, terrified that something was seriously wrong. The doctors told me everything was fine, but I knew deep down that I wasn’t well. My heart continued to race flat out for a week, and I was utterly drained. Walking up the stairs in my house left me breathless. I visited doctor after doctor, all of whom assured me nothing was wrong and that I was “fine”. Even a cardiologist dismissed my symptoms as “normal.” But I knew my body, and this wasn’t normal for me. Just weeks before I could run 7km (albeit tired) and now I couldn’t even manage the stairs. The Long Road to Recovery The reality was that I was severely burnt out, something I had to discover and understand on my own. My adrenal glands were shot, and I was forced to go on medication and take the entire year of 2015 off work because I simply wasn’t fit to do anything. My condition was so debilitating that on Christmas Day 2014, instead of enjoying lunch with my daughters and family, I was in the emergency department once again, my heart racing on a week-long adrenaline rush from the smallest amount of stress. It took moving back to Tasmania in 2016 and living with my parents to slowly regain my strength. I eased back into work with a part-time bookkeeping role, and by September 2016, I was finally able to return to full-time work. But the impact of burnout lingered—it affected me financially, stripped me of the joy I found in running and socialising, and most painfully, it kept me from being the parent I wanted to be to my two beautiful daughters. Burnout Strikes Again (and Again) Unfortunately, that wasn’t the end of my battle with burnout. It hit me again in 2021, forcing me back on medication for my adrenal glands. And then, in 2023, it struck once more. I was under a lot of pressure at work and ended up having to take 6 weeks off work due to continued colds, illness and finally a debilitating flu which left me unwell for weeks. I was exhausted, emotional and I felt completely drained. I had lost my enjoyment of life and I was feeling completely depleted in every area - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I was struggling to get out of bed and making the school lunches each morning was a herculean task. This was the catalyst for a profound life reboot. Why Did I have Serial Burnout? You might wonder why it took three bouts of severe burnout for me to truly realise that I needed to make changes to my life. The truth is, I didn’t realise that I was a large part of the problem. I thought that my thoughts, behaviours, worrying and constant striving were normal - I didn't know any other way. I assumed it was just stressful jobs, but then I reflected that nobody else seemed to be burning out. Plus, after burning out in a number of different roles, I realised that there was one common denominator and I was looking at her in the mirror! If I wanted to change my life, I needed to do something different and really reflect on how I was living my life and carrying out my work. It's extremely common for people to experience serial burnout. Why? Because we often get burnt out, take time off to recover and then go back to working and living exactly the same way that got us there in the first place!! Change is hard and it requires some big adjustments – that can be scary and difficult. But for me, burnout had wreaked such havoc on my life that my body was in a constant state of stress, reacting to almost everything—even food—as if it were a threat. I got to the point where I could only eat a handful of foods and that’s no way to live. I was trapped in a “fight or flight” mode that was destroying my ability to enjoy life. My hair started to shed and break off – my body was screaming at me to make changes. But through this painful journey, I learnt some critical lessons. I had to completely reassess my life and career, focusing on regulating my nervous system, setting boundaries and prioritising self-care. I became deeply introspective, working on my mindset as a recovering perfectionist and began practicing kindness towards myself. I started doing things I enjoyed and made a conscious decision to truly live my life, not just survive it. A Commitment to Change & Renewed Purpose This journey has been a rollercoaster, but it has brought me to a place of profound understanding and commitment. I’ve realised that change was necessary if I wanted a different outcome, and now, I’m devoted to helping others recognise the signs of burnout and make change before it’s too late. Burnout is not something you have to endure alone, and it’s not a sign of weakness. It’s a signal that something needs to change. My mission is to be a beacon of hope for those who feel overwhelmed and to provide the tools and support they need to prevent burnout from taking over their lives. I’m committed to never burning out again—and I’m here to help you do the same. If this story resonates with you, and you're feeling the weight of burnout in your own life, you don’t have to face it alone. At Prospera Consulting , I offer burnout coaching for leaders and executives that’s grounded in personal experience and proven strategies to help you regain control of your life. Together, we’ll work to identify the stressors that are driving you to exhaustion, set boundaries that allow for real balance and create a plan to help you reclaim your energy and joy. Whether you’re seeking support to prevent burnout or to recover from it, my coaching is designed to provide the tools, guidance and compassion you need to thrive. Reach out today—your wellbeing is worth it.
By Kelly Walker September 11, 2024
The pressure to achieve can sometimes feel overwhelming. We’re bombarded with messages that tell us to hustle harder, push through obstacles and never settle for less. But at what cost? The line between striving for success and burning out is thin, and many of us are teetering dangerously close to the edge. So, how do we know if we’re striving too hard? And more importantly, is our striving healthy, or is it driven by fear and the need to please others? The Nature of Striving Striving, in its essence, is a natural part of life. It’s the force that propels us forward, fuels our ambitions and helps us grow. Healthy striving comes from a place of intrinsic motivation—it’s about setting personal goals that align with our values and passions. When we strive in this way, we’re more likely to experience a sense of fulfillment and joy in the journey, regardless of the outcome. However, striving can quickly become unhealthy when it’s rooted in external validation. If our desire to achieve is driven by a fear of failure, a need to prove ourselves, or the pressure to meet others' expectations, we may find ourselves caught in a cycle of relentless pursuit with little satisfaction. This kind of striving is often accompanied by feelings of anxiety, stress and burnout. Are You Striving Too Hard? One of the key indicators that you may be striving too hard is a constant state of exhaustion—both physical and emotional. If you’re pushing yourself to the point where rest feels like a luxury rather than a necessity, it’s time to reevaluate. Another sign is the inability to enjoy your achievements. When you’re so focused on the next goal that you can’t take a moment to celebrate how far you’ve come, it’s a clear indication that your striving has become more about the pursuit than the pleasure. Additionally, if your self-worth is tied to your accomplishments, you’re likely striving from an unhealthy place. When we define ourselves by what we achieve rather than who we are, we’re setting ourselves up for a never-ending quest for approval. This can lead to a life driven by fear—fear of not being good enough, fear of disappointing others and fear of failure. Striving From a Healthy Place Healthy striving comes from a place of self-awareness and self-compassion. It’s about setting goals that are meaningful to you - not because they’ll impress others, but because they resonate with your inner values and desires. When you strive from a healthy place, you’re able to set boundaries, take breaks and recognise when enough is enough. Ask yourself: Are your goals aligned with your values? Are you pursuing them because they genuinely matter to you, or because you feel you should? Are you able to find joy in the process, or are you solely focused on the outcome? Striving from a healthy place also means embracing the concept of good enough. Perfection is an illusion and the pursuit of it can lead to chronic dissatisfaction. By allowing yourself to be human, to make mistakes and to have limits, you create space for growth that’s sustainable and fulfilling. The Role of People Pleasing Fear and people-pleasing are two of the most common drivers of unhealthy striving. When we’re motivated by fear—whether it’s fear of failure, rejection, or not measuring up—we’re often in a state of fight-or-flight. This constant state of stress can take a toll on our mental and physical health, leading to burnout. People-pleasing, on the other hand, stems from a deep-seated need for approval. When we base our worth on others’ opinions, we lose sight of our own needs and desires. This can lead to a life that’s more about fulfilling others’ expectations than living authentically. To strive from a place of strength rather than fear, it’s crucial to cultivate self-awareness. Take time to reflect on your motivations, identify any patterns of people-pleasing and challenge the beliefs that drive your fear. By doing so, you can begin to shift your focus from external validation to internal fulfillment. Finding Balance The key to balancing striving and achieving lies in self-compassion and realistic goal-setting. It’s about recognising that while ambition is valuable, it should not come at the expense of your wellbeing. Set goals that are challenging yet attainable, and allow yourself to celebrate small wins along the way. Remember, it’s okay to rest. It’s okay to say no. And it’s okay to prioritise your mental and emotional health over the constant push for more. By striving from a place of love—love for yourself and your values—you’ll find that achieving becomes a natural byproduct of a life well lived. Reflection In a world that glorifies hustle, it’s easy to get caught up in the endless pursuit of success. But true achievement isn’t about how hard you strive. It’s about striving from a place of authenticity, balance and self-compassion. By tuning into your motivations, setting boundaries and embracing the journey as much as the destination, you can transform your striving into a healthy, fulfilling path to personal and professional growth. At Prospera Consulting , we understand the pressures that come with leadership, particularly when it leads to burnout or unhealthy striving driven by fear and the need for approval. Through our executive and burnout coaching , we help leaders recognise these patterns and move towards a more sustainable, heart-centred approach to achievement. By using key indicators, we can uncover whether your actions are aligned with external validation or authentic purpose, allowing for meaningful change. Our Leading with Heart program is a transformative first step in cultivating the self-awareness necessary to lead with integrity, balance, and genuine impact.
By Kelly Walker September 11, 2024
The demands on leaders today are greater than ever before. The ability to navigate uncertainty, make difficult decisions and inspire others is crucial. Yet, true leadership isn’t just about making bold moves or driving results. It’s about leading with courage - a courage rooted in self-awareness, character development and a commitment to humility and heart. What Does it Mean to Lead with Courage? Courage in leadership is often misunderstood. It’s not about being fearless or taking reckless risks. Instead, it’s about the inner strength to face challenges head-on, even when the outcome is uncertain. Courageous leadership involves making decisions that align with one’s values, even when they are unpopular and standing firm in the face of adversity. But where does this courage come from? At its core, leading with courage is deeply connected to self-awareness and character development. The Role of Self-Awareness Self-awareness is the foundation of courageous and heart-centred leadership. It involves a deep understanding of one’s strengths, weaknesses, emotions and motivations. When leaders are self-aware, they can recognise their own fears, biases and triggers, allowing them to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively. Self-aware leaders are not afraid to look inward and confront their limitations. They understand that true growth comes from acknowledging and addressing areas for improvement. This level of introspection fosters a leadership style that is authentic and grounded in reality, rather than driven by ego or a need for control. Character Development: Building Integrity & Resilience Character development is the process of refining and strengthening the qualities that define who we are as leaders. Integrity, honesty, empathy and resilience are just a few of the traits that make up strong character. These qualities are not inherent. They are cultivated through experience, reflection and a commitment to personal growth. Leading with courage requires a strong moral compass. Leaders with well-developed character are guided by their principles, even when it’s difficult. They prioritise doing what is right over what is easy, and they are willing to make sacrifices for the greater good. This kind of leadership inspires trust and loyalty in others because it is consistent, transparent and values-driven. Leading From Humility & Heart (Not Fear) One of the most powerful aspects of courageous leadership is the ability to lead from humility and heart, rather than fear. Humility in leadership is about recognising that we don’t have all the answers and that learning is a continuous journey. It’s about valuing the contributions of others and being open to feedback and collaboration. When leaders operate from a place of humility, they create a culture where team members feel valued and empowered. This contrasts sharply with fear-based leadership, where decisions are made out of anxiety, insecurity, or a desire to maintain control. Fear-based leadership stifles creativity, breeds mistrust and ultimately undermines the potential of both the leader and the team. Leading with heart means putting people first. It’s about empathy, compassion and a genuine desire to support and uplift others. Leaders who lead with heart are attuned to the needs and emotions of their team members and they prioritise their wellbeing. This approach fosters a positive, inclusive workplace culture where everyone can thrive. The Impact of Courageous Leadership When leaders embrace self-awareness, character development, humility and heart, they cultivate a courageous leadership style that has a profound impact on their organisations. Teams led by courageous leaders are more engaged, innovative and resilient. They feel safe to take risks, share ideas and contribute to the organisation’s success. Moreover, courageous leadership sets a powerful example for others to follow. It encourages a culture of integrity, where doing the right thing is valued over short-term gains. This kind of leadership not only drives sustainable success but also leaves a lasting legacy of positive change. Reflection Leading with courage is not about the absence of fear; it’s about the presence of self-awareness, character, humility and heart. It’s about making decisions that are true to our values, even in the face of adversity and leading in a way that uplifts and empowers others. As leaders, when we commit to this path of courageous leadership, we not only transform our organisations but also ourselves. At Prospera Consulting , we believe that courageous heart-centred leadership is the key to building resilient, thriving organisations. If you’re ready to explore how you can lead with more courage, authenticity and heart, we’re here to support you on that journey. Our Leading with Heart program is a great opportunity for leaders to embark on a developmental process that facilitates self-awareness and character development. Together, we can create a future where leadership is not just about short-term results but about making a meaningful, lasting impact.
By Kelly Walker August 26, 2024
Australia has recently introduced 'right to disconnect' legislation effective of 26 August 2024, a significant move aimed at enhancing employee well-being. This new law, inspired by similar regulations in countries like France and Germany, is designed to protect workers from the constant pressure of being "always on" in an increasingly digital world. But what does this legislation involve and how can it positively impact work-life balance and burnout prevention? What is the Right to Disconnect? The 'right to disconnect' grants employees the legal right to refrain from engaging in work-related communications—such as emails, calls, or instant messages—outside of their contracted working hours. This law recognises the importance of separating work from personal life, ensuring that employees are not expected to be available around the clock. The 'right to disconnect' laws will initially apply to businesses with 15 or more employees. Small businesses with fewer than 15 employees will not be subject to these laws until August 2025. The laws do not restrict managers from contacting their employees at any time, however workers can decline to monitor, read or respond to messages outside work hours unless that refusal is considered unreasonable. The legislation requires employers to establish clear boundaries regarding after-hours work and communication. While there may be exceptions in emergencies or critical situations, the general expectation is that employees can disconnect from work without fear of retribution. Why is this Legislation Important? In today’s hyper-connected world, the lines between work and personal life have become increasingly blurred. Many employees feel the pressure to stay connected to their jobs even after their official working hours have ended. This can lead to longer working hours, increased stress and, ultimately, burnout. The 'right to disconnect' is crucial for several reasons: Work-Life Balance : By establishing a clear boundary between work and personal life, employees can fully engage in their personal lives, hobbies and relationships without the constant distraction of work. This balance is essential for mental health and overall well-being. Burnout Prevention : Continuous exposure to work-related stress, without sufficient time to relax and recharge, is a significant contributor to burnout. The 'right to disconnect' allows employees the necessary downtime to recover from work-related stress, reducing the risk of burnout. Increased Productivity : Contrary to the belief that being constantly available improves productivity, research has shown that overwork can lead to decreased efficiency and creativity. By allowing employees to disconnect and recharge, they return to work more refreshed and focused, leading to higher productivity levels. Improved Employee Satisfaction : When employees feel their personal time is respected, job satisfaction increases. This can lead to higher retention rates, reduced absenteeism and a more positive work environment. How Employers Can Implement the Right to Disconnect For the 'right to disconnect' to be effective, employers must take proactive steps to integrate it into their workplace culture. Here are some strategies: Clear Policies and Communication : Employers should develop clear policies outlining when employees are expected to be available and when they are not. This includes specifying exceptions and communicating these policies to all staff members. Supportive Leadership : Leaders should model the behaviour they wish to see, respecting their employees' right to disconnect and avoiding unnecessary communication outside of working hours. Flexible Work Arrangements : Flexibility in work arrangements, such as allowing employees to set their own hours within a certain framework, can also support the Right to Disconnect. This gives employees more control over their work-life balance. Regular Check-Ins : Employers should regularly check in with employees to assess their well-being and ensure that the Right to Disconnect is being respected. Employers should seek legal advice to fully understand how this legislation applies to their specific situation. Legal professionals can help interpret the law, ensuring that companies establish compliant policies that also meet the operational needs of their business. This is particularly important for industries where after-hours communication might be more frequent or necessary. The Road Ahead While the 'right to disconnect' is a promising step forward, it is not a silver bullet. Achieving true work-life balance and preventing burnout requires a holistic approach, including fostering a supportive workplace culture, promoting mental health awareness and encouraging healthy work habits. For businesses, this legislation is an opportunity to rethink how they manage their workforce. Prioritising employee well-being is not only a moral imperative but also a strategic advantage. Companies that embrace the Right to Disconnect will likely see benefits in employee morale, productivity and retention. As we move forward, the 'right to disconnect' should be seen as part of a broader effort to create a healthier, more sustainable work environment. By respecting the boundaries between work and personal life, we can build a future where employees are not just surviving but thriving in their roles. Prospera Consulting is here to support your business in navigating these changes. We specialise in burnout prevention strategies, offering comprehensive consulting services to help you integrate burnout prevention into your workplace culture effectively. Our services include burnout and stress management training, burnout prevention strategies as well as coaching services to support executives and leaders experiencing acute burnout or at high risk of burnout in the future. We’re committed to helping your organisation thrive by fostering a balanced, healthy and productive work environment. Australia’s 'right to disconnect' marks a positive change in how we approach work, paving the way for healthier, more balanced lives and a significant reduction in burnout rates. It’s a win for employees, employers and society as a whole.
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By Kelly Walker August 26, 2024
The idea that leadership must be tough is deeply ingrained in many organisational cultures. This mindset suggests that to lead effectively, one must make decisions with an iron fist, show little emotion and keep a rigid distance from the team.
By Kelly Walker August 25, 2024
I had the incredible opportunity to spend some much-needed time in Byron Bay, a place dear to my heart and known for its natural beauty and tranquil energy. What made this trip even more special was the combination of a business retreat with some truly inspiring female entrepreneurs.
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By Kelly Walker August 25, 2024
Discover my journey to becoming an executive coach, driven by a passion for leadership, growth, and creating sustainable success for others.
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